Hurting those we LOVE

I don't know if it's just me but it always seems like I end up hurting those I love the most... Is it but a defense mechanism to not allow people whom love you to come closer?

I was thinking about the people who love me and how much I've hurt them in one way or another. Maybe, as cruel as it sounds, in Freudian terms, hurting those who you know love you is a way we take revenge on those whom we love(d) but have hurt us in the past?

I don't mean to sound cheem but it's like a handicapping mechanism, where like you set yourself up to cause hurt to others intentionally, but in the end, in the long run, the person who suffers the most pain in yourself...

Do anyone know what I'm talking about here or is this issue only unique to me?


Sometimes, it is too late to change the situation or the people involved and sorries cannot make up for the loss of love and tears. Maybe it's just human nature to me masochistic so we can understand the emotion of joy and ecstacy... What would Darwin say to that?

There were 7 socks in the bucket the last time I checked
Each a colour of the rainbow, from red to indigo
I threw 3 aside quickly, the rest I packed
Into a pretty package and buried them down below
Once a while I'd dig up my treasure chest
Just to count if they were still there
Dusted them, ensuring they looked their best
But what's the use if I'm never going to wear
The red one, or the blue one, or the orange one
Maybe I'll give them away to someone who needs them more
Someone who will put them on and run
Down the runway, above all -soar-
I'm going to rummage through the crate
Nitpick, give and take, it's not up to fate
To run with baton in hand, no socks on feet
It's time I did the cruelest good deed

Gen Kanai from Mozilla @ TDM's Latest Event

Hi folks,

After a few months of hibernation, planning and team building, we are happy to announce our next project: PopOut: Emerging Web Startups!

PopOut! is finally here! Calling all technopreneurs, venture capitalist, geeks, students, startups and basically anyone interested in the web 2.0 and beyond to join us as we hear from these locally grown startups share their innovation and experience! A successor to Geekout, Popout will be a series of startup showcases where we want you to meet the entrepreneurs spearheading the emergence of the Singapore Web 2.0 landscape. Our next series will focus on mobile startups. Click here to view Gen's blog about the event!

Companies presenting include Bezurk, recently named one of the world's most exciting startup by Business 2.0, ZopIM, Quaffs, BookJetty, Recruit.net and others.

Although we're upgrading to Suntec for this time, but no worries!!! We'll definitely be keeping the informal conversations and fun-filled interactions that mark TDM events.

Date: 4 October 2007 (Thursday)
Time: 6.45 to 9.30pm
Venue: Suntec Singapore International Convention & Exhibition Centre, Ballroom 1, Level 2

Admission: FREE!!!

Program at a glance:

6.30pm: Registration

7.00pm: Start of Event

7.10pm: Sharing Session with Ross from Bezurk

7.30pm: Demo by Quaffs and followed by ZopIM

8.00pm: Break

8.10pm: Demo by BookJetty and followed by Recruit.net

8.40pm: Short Speech by Gen Kanai of Mozilla

9.00pm: Chill-Out with the Peeps!

As with Geekout (which was fully registered in 2 days), be sure to register early! For more details, please check out http://popout.thedigitalmovement.org.

Cheers,
9eek 9oddess of The Digital Movement

Night @ Kent Ridge Park

I've always had a real small bite for adventure -- especially the kind that resembles any thing close to the supernatural. Call me cowardly, but I don't see how anyone can get a kick from being spooked. Seriously, what so cool about chasing "spirits"?

Gerard took me to Kent Ridge Park at like... hmmm 1130PM last night and there, I got bitten by mosquitoes! Tons of them! I was living, breathing bait! But it was my first time there and there were many kids playing with like fireworks and like throwing sparklers around! It was a real pretty site! To thin so late at night, there were still sooooo many cars and people there!

It was really nice and cool, but I kept thinking I was in a zoo! The frogs were croaking non stop and I swear they sounded like cows! (Is that why they call them BULL frogs?)

I saw this tank as well, but in the night it seemed a lot more "eerie"...
I wouldn't go there unless I was with someone - human of course - who has the guts, especially so late at night...

Nonetheless, thanks to Gerard for the flowers!

Tooooodles!

Surefire way to INCREASE BLOG TRAFFIC

As bloggers, we love it when someone visits our blogs and comments on it. It somehow validates us, but then many of us have seen our readership grow slowly, then are disappointed when it plateaus. Let me share with you a way you can change this!


The truth be told, it happens. Yes, many bloggers find their readership stagnating and are looking for surefire ways to increase their readership.

Let me tell you of one way. BLOGRUSH.

Now, what is Blogrush?

It is the brain child of Internet entrepreneur, John Reese. Created to be extremely viral to help bloggers “rush” traffic to their blogs, BlogRush is basically a traffic exchange network, with a MLM twist.

As a BlogRush user, I will earn “syndication credits” each time my blog page (with widget) loads, i.e. the more page loads, the more credits earned. These credits are in turn used to distribute and display my latest blog post titles across a network of related blogs. Hence, the more syndication credits I chalk up, the more viral and exponential exposure the blog gets!

Besides earning credits based on your own traffic, users also earn via traffic (loads of widget) of their referrals, all the way up to 10 generations of referrals! BlogRush is not called a “Syndication Network” for nothing. It is a revolutionary traffic network that puts your blog traffic on steroids!!

It is a well known fact those people at the top of MLM network earn the most money. Although BlogRush has some elements of a pyramid scheme in it, no money actually change hands. To earn your “rush hour” traffic, it is thus most sensible to join BlogRush now (it is so new it is still in Beta) to start getting your referrals and reap maximum viral effect and exponential exposure!

Good luck to blogging and increasing your readership! :)

I just want to see you SMILE

There is something about comic that I absolutely love. Laughing at silly everyday things -- sometimes we take life too seriously! When I am confused or down, I always take the time out to search out comics that give me a glimpse into the happiness I am missing, to the sunshine after the rain...

Here are a few I want to share with you :) ...


Theme: OPTISM


I love the whole play on the half-empty, half-full glass analogy...


At least, I'm not bald yet, that's sure one thing to celebrate...


At least I can still enjoy good food... even if not often (er)....


Positivity not ever once, did kill someone...

:)

Names you NEVER want to call your child

Mandarin
Paul Chan - Bankrupt
Anne Chang - Dirty
Faye Chen - Dusty
Anne Chin - Keep quiet
Henry Mah - Hate your mum
Jane Tan - Frying eggs
Nelson Tan - Bird laying eggs
Leslie Tong - Rubbish bin

Hokkien
Carl Cheng - Buttock
Monica Cheng - Touching your buttocks
Lucy Leow - You are dead
Suzie Leow - Lost till death
Lim Yew Lin - Drink urine
Lim Teh Peng - Drink iced tea
Danny See - Squeeze you to death
Corrine Tai - Poor fellow
Rosie Teng - Screws and nails
Carmen Tng - Leg hair long
Pete Tsai - Nose droppings

Cantonese
Connie Mah - Call your mother
Macy Koh - Never die before

EXPOSED: Differences between Mac and PC users

A NEWS WEB SITE called Thoof has had a look at the behaviour of some of its users to see if it could find the real difference between Apple and PC people.

Windows users are 20 per cent more interested in stories about religion than Mac users. Thoof thinks that this could be something to do with the occasional brush with a “blue screen of death” which gives Windows users a greater sense of their own mortality.

However it is more likely to be the fact that the use of Apple gear is a religion and looking at other gods is an affront to to his omnipotence, Steve of Cappuccino.

Windows users are 39 per cent more likely to read a story about personal savings than their Mac using friends. This is probably because Mac users have spent all their savings on the quarterly update of their Ipod, Imac or OSX.

Mac users are six per cent more interested in intellectual property law and five per cent more interested in fitness. There is only one company more proprietary than Microsoft in the world and when you encounter Apple briefs you have to be able to run fast.

Mac users are 20 per cent more interested in stories about biology. We guess the only way they can see a real naked member of the opposite sex is on sites classified as biological.

Mac users are six per cent less likely to read a story involving New York. Perhaps because it is one of the furthest places in the US from Cupertino and therefore more likely to fall into a state of Apple heresy.

Thanks to The Inquirer & Ming.

Charity DInner with Nuffnang, Xiaxue & Company!

Thanks to Nuffnang, Wendy, Mike, Ming, Stanley and I went to Aston prime over the weekend for yummy food! It was a charity event held to raise fund for the less fortunate. It's times like these where we see people stepping out to do their part. It's sometimes hard to fathom the plight of the less fortunate unless you really are in their shoes. And people like Dr. Tay, who is probably upper class, arranging for such events to take place, really shows that there still is some good in the world.


Thanks to Dr. Leslie Tay and Aston's generosity, we had a great night of food, fun, fellowship and best of all, they managed to raise a Grand Total of $7167 for the Andrew and Grace Home for troubled teens.

iEat was an event held by Singapore's top blogger, ieatishootipost (Dr. Leslie Tay) at Aston prime, a steakhouse along Joo Chiat road that serves the BEST (no kidding!) food.


About over 40 bloggers attended the event, most of which were Dr. Tay's blog fanatics! :)


Here: Stanley, Mike (Wend's bf) and Ming!


That's us, with out auction placcards! We were supposed to use them to bid for...


necklaces like these! Sponsored by Bead hub! But camwhores as we were, it was no surprise we were.... *hee hee*


But none the less, I have proof that I worked hard at designing my placcard. I think Wendy deserved to win, but then we didn't! We lost to some other dude, although I still think ours was WAAAYY better!! Hrrrmpphh!


Ming, Wendy, Mike and Stanley had the steak which was soooo super yummy! *drool* I swear the cut was like insanely good and apparently the meat had to be prepared 3 days in advance!


I had the King Salmon, which in my opinion was yummier than the steak, it would literally melt in the mouth. You really have to try it to believe it!


Of course, the starter and the dessert were no disappointments either. I'm definitely bringing my parents there once we find the time!

Thanks to Dr. Tay, Nuffnang and all involved for such a great weekend! Toodles!

HOT Eligible Bachelor Looking for GIRLFRIEND - application open-

Girls, let me introduce you to my very eligible friend, Ding! (far left) Ding is extremely eligible and is out looking for a girlfriend. The problem?

With pictures like these, how can one's mother not think their son is gay? Calling all girls looking for an eligible soon to be private banker, leave a comment on my blog and I'll hook you up. Haha, what's more juicy, Ding's house is EMPTY! Ding lives my himself in his huge house along holand road (his parents live in Austalia), so any one looking for a hotel and boyfriend in one, this is the right guy for you! Don't hesitate, comment now! Finder's keepers, losers weepers!

But on a more serious note, yesterday we hopped on to Wala Wala @ Holland Village to celebrate Ding's 24th birthday. I managed to get a dedication for Ding - the performer belted Ding's fav. song, you and me!


As usual, we had sooooo much fun! I love wala wala and their band!

Shimei, me and Gerri! Both speak in perfect Queens English. You can hear Gerri on NewsRadio 938 and you can soon see Shimei's articles on SPH newspaper soon! All my friends so ang moh pai! :) super bananas la!

It was good to meet Jac too! The last time I met her, we were in New York City together eating deep dish pizza ot of some soho cafe! Yummy! Boy does time fly!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DING! *xoxo* Hope you meet your dream girl (ahem, shimei) soon! :)

Why Chinese SUCK at English

I think this performance is totally hilarious. I can hardly understand a word they are singing, plus I think the song is totally inappropriate, seriously. I think it is an inefficient way to learn English and even if so, there is a lot of work to do on the performance.

One thing I love though, the little shy girl who suddenly "opens up" and breaks in to jigs in the middle of the performance... and boy can she shake that booty!

NEVER stay with your MOTHER IN LAW unless you know when she's around -NSFW-

This cracked me up so bad. One reason why you don't want to stay with your mother in law.... Even if you stay with them, make sure you know when they will be around...

I've been trying to find a flight to Melbourne, but to no avail! Too late, all flight are booked up during the time period suitable for me. An alternative was on taking a budget flight to Perth, then an internal one to Melbourne. My search lead me to Youtube (as everything does) when I found this little clip about budget flights and mother in laws...

You go figure, something's gotta give ya?

Vanity Fair @ NUS Brings out the HORNS in GIRLS

Yes, of course girls can be demure little angels, prim and proper ladies when they want to, BUT not when NUS organizes the once a year VANITY FAIR. At the sound of the word "Vanity Fair", they, as if on cue, sprout horns, grow 3 extra hands and develop an uncanny ability to squeeze into nooks and crannies 3 times smaller than them. Even the meekest girls are able to bellow in loud voices that cause the ear bones of anyone to reverberate in pain. Suddenly it's as if our elbows were made for by evolution to be have no use but to nudge away contenders... (and by this I don't mean the opposite sex)

No and I'M NOT KIDDING. Basically, we were like sardines. Sardines packed in a can. Sardines packed in a can on a hot Thursday, squeezing to get our way among the throng of other sweaty, slippery sardines...

No, make that sardine-flavoured humans packed in a can of already overflowing saline-covered , oily sardines.


The NUS Vanity Fair is a huge sale in the central forum every year where they sell make up at relatively cheaper prices (NO they are still NOT cheap!), and like a sea of girls get up early, line up like fools just to get a glimpse of, yes LAST SEASON's colours. (The things we do to save money and look better!!!) Oh my God I thought they were going to be this season's!!! Got tricked! I blame this on the X chromosome, it is undoubtedly ingrained in our very pink DNA.


Girls suddenly grow horns, hold a trident in their hands, trying to fend off fellow "competitors". Cosmetics strewn all over the table, hands reaching out for scraps of sample pieces on the table, fingernails scratching each other's skin, huffing and puffing, almost in a possessed frenzy.

I caught myself for a second trying to squeeze into the crowd but suddenly it just seemed as if the world stopped spinning, I broke out in cold sweat and I was hit by a wave of revelation. "Man I really don't need this! I'm buying stuff for my mother, my sister, my friends! Ouch, someone is stepping on my toes with her stilettos! Get lost, girlfriend!!!!"
IS THIS ALL REALLY WORTH IT? Sheesh!

However, I managed to get a quite a few laughs, from watching people act the way they do. Most of my giggles were directed towards, not women, but the MEN, in other words the foolish (oops, did I say that out loud) boyfriends who help their girlfriends line up for hours just to throw their money in the diamond studded faces of the already too rich cosmetic giants. Ok, but then again the poor guys are so sweet to stand in line and wait, and wait and wait and... yes, wait. I don't know how they have the patience. The foolish things love makes you do....

Conversation 1

BF: How much you want me to withdraw?
GF: Just take some money out la..
BF: Ok $50 enough?
GF: Why don't you just take $250 out first, got extra then put back..
BF: ..........

Conversation 2

GF: You help me line up first to pay then when I'm done I go find you k?
BF: OK, don't take too long hor...
GF: Your next class is in 4 hours right?
BF: .............

Conversation 3

BF: Got anything for guys?
GF: Eh can help me take the blue eye shadow?
BF: Ok, can got anything for guys not?
GF: Dear, which colour is nicer ah?
BF: Purple nicer; got anything for guys here?
GF: OK I think I'm done, can pay already

Conversation 4

Guy 1: Eh what you doing here?
Guy 2: Lining up for girlfriend lor, you?
Guy 1: Same lor, you no lesson ah?
Guy 2: Got la, life's lesson lor. never to volunteer to queue up for girlfriend
Guy 1: Not worth it la, no modular credit one

(As a sidenote I do not think guys should pay for their gf's make up, why should they? I find it a tad bit insulting, to be honest)

Welcome to the world of Monster girls... I do agree (just for today), girls can be really unreasonable and jut plain animalistic *meow* when it comes to getting what they (think) they want...


Next year's vanity fair will probably look something like this, so I advice you to be prepared with body armor and deodorant..

My Friends are NERDS

I came across this little comic and laughed out loud. Don't know how many of you have tried this little trick on your parents before, but all I can say is it's better telling the truth. Some lies just WON'T and -DON'T- work!

I don't exactly remember any occasion in particular that I had to lie to my parents to do something, but if I had to, I sure won't use this one. :)

License to "CHEAT"

When do you have the license to "cheat"? When will it be considered OK? When will you be given the green light? When does the world give you a pat on the back for cheating?

Mom and dad were fetching me back from giving tuition today when we suddenly talked about Uncle John and the late Auntie Gracie.

They were my parents' friends from long time back since I was born and I remember fondly receiving birthday gifts and card all the way from Canada without fail each year. Auntie Gracie would never miss a birthday or anniversary, as if it was ingrained in her very DNA to be the person to bring forth joy to the world by never missing a special day. I remember wondering how she was capable of doing so. She had so many friends, who were friends of ours as well and it was as if she had a calendar in front of her where all she did all day was look out for special occasions. She much have had a kinokuniya-load worth of greeting cards for every occasion, I swear!

So what happens is that, a couple of years ago, Auntie Gracie succumbed to cancer and we were all really sad at the loss of a confidante. However, the most devastated was Uncle John. I remember at the funeral, he was sobbing away silently, sad at the loss of a wife, but sadder at the loss of a friend. I remember feeling so much grief, not so much because I would miss her, but more so that the prospect of having to look at Uncle John so sad. Mum and Dad were really upset too, because our families used to be so tight although we were half the world apart...

The topic came up today that uncle John had remarried to some new someone (whom I have no idea who she is and where she comes from). And to some people who called themselves his friends, they found that puzzling, how can someone "remarry" just like that, so quickly, to someone completely foreign, it really doesn't make sense.

But in the car, as I was listening in on the conversation, I felt angry, and frustrated. Angry that people could judge him, frustrated for the lack of compassion from people around. So this is not the first case. Uncle PH, Uncle George, Uncle Winston all loved their wives immensely, but at their passing, soon after, quickly remarried to someone new.

And what the hell is wrong with that? They had loved their wives so much when she was aive, they were totally committed to her and why is it wrong to remarry when she is gone? That doesn't constitute cheating, does it? I mean, seriously, should a man be "punished to be alone" all for the rest of his life just because his wife has left for a better place before him?

Is it wrong to want to find love, afterall men do get lonely, don't they. They still are human! It's not like he was cheating on her or considering thoughts of remarrying when she was alive! These men were completely, wholeheartedly faithful, so who are these people to come by and say that he "didn't love her enough, that's why he remarried"?

How foolish can these ignorant people be? I get more angry as I think about it, these judgmental fools...

For this I say, if your better half is gone, you have more than a license to cheat, so go on, brother!

Happy Birthday Shaun, Goodbye James & Kenneth

Happy birthday Shawn Chin! Happy happy birthday! You're 24 years old!!! I know this comes super belated; but I just didn't have enough time to actually get down to blogging about it but. yes working and studying simultaneously can be tough - it's a dog's life!

Thanks goes to Cute little Clement (on the left - haha I love his random expressions) as well as Adrian who helped to buy the yummmylicious cake!

How totally nice it is to surprise someone - I love surprises!

Where ols friends all come to gether from all walks of life, where bankers (both on left) and plastic surgeon (far right) meet. What a beau-ti-ful combination!

You are only as happy as the people around you are, right?

But then again, you know that gambling does help everyone to be happier, especially when the birthday boy wins the house!

Happy birthday to you! You're 24!

And that means that we girls are aging toooooo!! NOooooooOOoOoOO!

Cheers to youth and to us girls!

P/s: Good bye James and Kenneth! We will miss you! Until we meet again, enjoy the U- S of A! :) Love you all!