Isaac's Farewell Part @ Timbre (PICS)

Shimei, Raine and Me!

One of my ang moh friends, Issac Schwartz had his farewell party @ Timbre last night. Since my whole gang of girl friends knew him as well,we all decided to troops down together. It was funny meeting the guy Isaac "slept with".


Well, the story goes, Issac is such a smooth guy that after meeting a guy at a club, he actually managed to persuade the guy to let him room at his house for 3 weeks while hunting for accomodation of his own. Yes, I know it sounds bad, but it really isn't that nasty... both of that are straight... (so far...)



Me, Shimei, Raine, Zandra and Zan's friend...


The 5 girls, just doing what we do best... acting cute... we're all actually 24 already, but still act cute...


I think there were sooo many cute guys that night... haha some guy called David was really cute and such a sweetheart.. too bad he left early. Talking of which, this dude totally embarrased me when he asked me if I was interested in David -- right in front of his face.

#$%^&* embarrassing can? And none of the girls defended me, they teased me!!! By the way, I was kicking Zandra in the ass for not hooking up with him...

And then Raine was smart to snag pics with another hottie from M'sia, Imon. (pictured above with Raine.)


But then.... of course, nothing beats girlfriends...


But of course we don't mind eye candy.... seriously who does??


Ya, and Vinod stares blatantly at Zandra's breasts.... no one's surprised :")


Yeap, one more shot of eye candy... pics taken by Zandra, clever girl!


One more won't hurt right? :)

We took tons more, I'll post them when Zandra darl sends them!

Love u all! xoxo!


p/s: Isaac I'll miss u, it was great having you in singapore... come back soon. we need talented ang mohs like u!!! (although u damn spoil market....)

Genevieve's 25th birthday pics!

Hey darlings, sorry I haven't been blogging.... starving you readers.

I started work last Friday, so got a lot to learn and did I say a lot to learn!! I quite love my work!! :) Anyway here's some pics of Gen's 25th birthday party! Happy Birthday babe!!!! We went to Chijmes to celebrate on Sunday night and THANK GOD Monday was a public holiday!!!


Happy Birthday Gen!

Gen, Ming and I :)

Gen and Ben - soooo schweeet!!!

Alex with the girls... now why am I not suprised???

Gen, Ming and I again....

Gen with her shuai -ges (handsome guys)

I promise i'll blog more this weekend. Now, it's just pics to show for k??? Enjoy... love u all!

Geek Goddess Show Episode 2 - My after thoughts



Yes! Episode 2 is here!!! check it out! This time, we want to let viewers know that we're listening and we've made minor tweaks to reflect more of what viewers want. The session is all about china based video, venture funds raising pertaining to these mega video sharing sites as well as we share insights on how to clone a facebook of your own! :)

And finally we read your emails!!!!!!!! :)

This episode was quite tough for me to film as my exams was a couple of days away. As you can see, I'm pretty stressed. Plus on the day of filming, well, it was Mother's Day!!! So we had to chop chop culli pok film so I could head to my granny's birthday cum mother's day celebration.

I'm glad exams are over.... and I'm officially a graduate!!! yay!!!! Means no more NUS! But then again... I'm filled with a tinge of sadness - no more 3 day weeks ;( and this marks a new chapter of my life....

Part of me is happy but part of me really never wants to grow up for some reason. There is this liberation with being a child forever, the freedom, the lack of responsibilities, the late night MSN chats and the sleeping in. Then again, I'm excited at the prospects of starting this new chapter. It's really bittersweet....

Any one of you guys just graduated as well? What are your thoughts?

9eek 9oddess' take on Blogger's Treat



Watch 9eek 9oddess as guest blogger on Episode 3 of Blogger's Treats! Well, it was a great surprise to me actually to be featured on blogger's treat. The truth was that... it wasn't mean to be me!!!! *sobs*. Andrew Peters was supposed to be the "star blogger", but at the last minute, he had a small accident (feel sorry for andrew)... and yaaaaaayyy I get to bring Sabrina to the Geek Terminal :) *3 cheers* (I don't mean this in a meanie tone!)


Thanks to Mike, Aaron and Princessa, they made me feel so loved and... who can reject free gooood food? Hee hee... sorry for being cheap, but I just loved watching Danny work his magic on the coffee machine. Sexy huh? ...


I hope you guys like Blogger's Treat. Over that last weekend as well, I managed to film another episode of The Geek Goddess Show. I'll post the clip up tomorrow so stay tuned!!! For those who can't wait, I already have it on my facebook page!


Love u all darlingsss!! xoxoxo

Singapore succeeds at EVERYTHING - except DATING

Yes, it's sad but true. Singaporeans succeed at everything - except dating. Well, not that I had to mention it, but last week, the International Herald Tribune reported this on their Asian highlight. True or not? Well, read on for their argument...

Students at Singapore Polytechnic during a class intended by the government to help set off romance among young people. (Pic taken from The International Herald Tribune)

Well, apparently, as reported, students from Singapore Poly had a sort of "college mixer", to help the males and females interact to boost chances of them dating. They had assembled for the first class of "Love Relations for Life: A Journey of Romance, Love and Sexuality."

The course, which is in its second year at two polytechnic institutes, is the latest of many, mostly futile, campaigns by the government to get its citizens to mate and multiply. Its popularity last year has led to talk of expansion through the higher education system.


"We want to tell students: Don't wait until you have built up your career, SOMETIMES IT'S TOO LATE, ESPECIALLY FOR THE GIRLS"


Yu-Foo Yee Shoon, minister of state for community development, youth and sports, said at a news conference last month.


The courses are an extension of government matchmaking programs that try to address the twin challenges embodied in a falling birthrate: Too few people are having babies and too few of those who are belong to what Singapore considers the genetically desirable educated elite.

For 25 years, the mating rituals organized by the government - tea dances, wine tasting, cooking classes, cruises, screenings of romantic movies - have been among the country's least-successful social engineering programs.


Last year Singapore's fertility rate fell to a record

low of 1.24 children per woman!


"Some people say if you're a smart guy you should marry a smart woman who can help you with your finances and career," said Chan, whose agency is called Club2040 and who has worked under contract for the Social Development Unit.


eStee Thinks: Definitely, couples should complement each other, but having similar interests may not be the be all and end all of a successful relationship. It takes more work than that. I've seen people who complement each other break up down the road and also have seen couples who seem as different as 2 end of the spectrum last a long time as well. It's not cookie cutter!


Three 20-year-old graduates from last year's inaugural course at Singapore Polytechnic still seemed imbued more with "kiasu" than romance.


Despite everything their teachers had told them about multitasking work and love, none was in a relationship. And nothing they had heard in class seemed to have dented their stereotypes about the opposite sex.


"I'm not open to relationships in school. Boys in school are not my cup of tea. They are male chauvinist pigs. They're annoying and childish. And they won't give in to you. They're just not mature." said Wei Shan Koh, a former student who works as a teacher's aide.


eStee Thinks: Well Weishan, I honestly think you're childish too. I know we all talk about equality and all that but if you aren't able to respect a man or give a man the respect he deserves, then you won't go anywhere. As much as women claim to be equals, we have to accept that men can be better than us in certain areas and likewise. If you want to talk so much about chauvinism, then why don't you go enlist yourself into 2 years into the army then come back and act macho...


"I think girls' ideas are a bit childish, or you might say girlie. It's a matter of pride. Guys are more outspoken. We don't like a girl to be more outspoken." said Tian, who hopes to become an engineer.


eStee Thinks: Darling Tian, if you want a girl who talks less than u, then go marry a Barbie Doll k?


Kamal Prakash, who hopes to be a lecturer in mathematics, gave voice to what appears to be the common theme here, both among young people and their elders.


"I am not interested now in love relations because I want to continue my studies. If I concentrate on love relations, I won't be able to concentrate on my studies."


eStee thinks: Every stage of your life, you'll be busy with something. After this, it'll be work. Are you going to say then that you'll wait until you retire before you start scouting? Hun, multi tasking is good practice now for the future...


Singapore's childbearing age, is one of the lowest in the world and the 28th year in a row it has stayed below the rate of 2.5 children needed to maintain the population. But even a replacement-level rate would not be enough for today's planners. The government recently announced that it was aiming to increase the population by 40 percent over the next half century, to 6.5 million from the current 4.5 million.


"Teaching our youth in school how to fall in love" is a good solution, wrote Andy Ho, a senior writer at The Straits Times, a government-friendly newspaper that does its best to help out in Singapore's many campaigns.


In 1991, for example, when the government began


1) offering cash bonuses to couples with more than two children


2) Newspaper printed tips for having sex in the back seat of a car


3) Directions to some of the "darkest, most secluded and most romantic spots" for parking. It suggested covering the windows with newspapers for privacy.


Singapore is known for its campaigns to get residents to be polite, to smile, to be tidy, to speak proper English and not to chew gum. In 1984, the country's master planner, then-Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew, declared that too few of the country's most eligible women - the ones with college degrees - were marrying and having children.



But in Singapore it is impossible to get very far from thoughts of money and the workplace. These guys may have other things on their minds besides romance and babies. :( Thanks to International Tribune for article..


Any bright ideas to help Singaporeans MATE?

Post Party Pics @ New Asia Bar!!!

Soooo finally exams are over and I'm sharing some party pics.... and OMG it's back to being able to resume my social life. Not like I had much to begin with, but we threw Hadi a birthday PAARRTTYYY on Friday night at New Asia Bar. I hadn't slept a wink the night before due to my Psych paper -- which happens to be my very very last!!!!! *phew*... after 5 years in NUS, I'e been finally set free. I feel like a criminal release from what seemed a life time sentence...
Ok, but not really la, I'm glad to be done with this phase of my life -- it wasn't that bad, really. I'm just happy it's over and I'm excited to start work on Friday!!! (and also looking forward to the long weekend after that)

It's gonna be hard naming everyone in this shot, but I'll try.... Bottom Row (L to R): Hadi (bday boy) and Junkang; Middle row (L to R) : Raine, Shimei, Isaac (my friend whom I meet at UPenn), and me! Top row (L to R): Scott and Abu


Hadi bought so much drinks and at the end, Jason (not pictured) bought 20 shots and demanded for us to finish it before he allowed us to leave. Being a non-drinker, Raine kindly obliged to drink on my behalf. Yea, I know, none of the guys came to my rescue!!!

Yea, my savior, Raine, 3rd from left.... it's just awesome how we all got to be friends, through different connetions :)

Us 3 girls :)

Final shot. I have tons more pic to post from the party, but then Isacc my dear friend from Wharton school of business -yea u'd think him to be an intellectual crackhead-, does not know how to zip files and send them via email or Yousendit. I have to seriously say to him,

" WAH LAU EH, UNCLE, MAI GONG CHIO WEI"...

which translates into " Uncles, don't joke can?"

I'll post more pics once I give Isaac a computer lesson or 2... BAH...

XOXO, LATER SKATERS!


WHY some guys BOHJEE : 9eek 9oddess' Theory

For my readers who have already read this post, Ian wrote a rebuttal to this post.

Click HERE to read. If you haven't yet read this post of mine, please read it...


I recently wrote an entry about the sad breakdown of my 1st relationship... which really changed my way of seeing the world. One of my readers commented on it and I would like to give my theory of...

WHY GUYS NEED TO ACT MACHO

So we hear of guys up and leaving their long time gfs for some short whirlwind relationship with some TRAMP.... and we wonder how someone can give up something they took so long to establish. Perhaps they were bored? I don't know, and I can never know. But that's a story for another day.

An anonymous reader commented in my previous post and I quote:

"Hello estee, I am an occasional follower of your thread, and I couldn't help but share some thoughts with you. You know something? A few days ago, I was catching up with some guy pals, and they said the most insensitive things in my presence, perhaps they thought that a girl who's just 'one of the guys' wouldn't mind. One of the guys commented that his female friend just broke up. This other MCP started the ball rolling by saying that

"You don't know meh? Alot of guys just to have a f**k buddy, you think they really want to stick with their girlfriends faithfully forever meh? Don't be silly lah, s'pore guys won't settle down with the last fling until they reach 35. And never get those clingy GFs, they will commit suicide if you dump them, just get one that you can f**k and dump, who cares about commitment?"

estee, you tell me...very painful to hear right? I suspect alot of guys are like this, well, at least those who look 'passable'. the other option would be the CMI geeks. Tell me, what is a girl to do in sg? How to find a good guy who doesn't have the intention to f**k and dump?...sigh...

I was extremely flabbergasted by the above sentence, which i put in BOLD...

I believe that the kind of guy who say this can be simply categorized into 2 groups. I will follow to dispense my own theory... which might offend many guys, or you might think it to be myopic, but if you want to argue with it, go write another blog post of your own -- I didn't force you to read mine.

Of course there is another group who will not have the audacity to say such a thing aloud, but still are not willing to commit. These guys are OK in my books, because, you have to give it to them, they have the choice of waiting for the one or looking hard until they are sure. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Back to the above mentioned statement, the 2 groups of guys are...


1. The ones that really mean it


A guy who has said the following comment could really sincerely mean it. Now let's not call him a hypocrite and give him the benefit of the doubt.

What crosses the line for me is the fact that he outrightly says this, in front of his friends.

These dudes truly do not believe in commitment. Because they think they are at the upperhand (which I might admit in most relationship, a girl looses out more), they see themselves as invincible and have the genetically endowed right to play (read: chop off his dick pls!).

These punks, can be further subgrouped into being

a) Very young and immature


I believe that a truly mature guy will not even say or think this. Why, you ask? Because a relationship is based on trust and is mutual. It is not about one person taking advantage of another or fighting to get the upperhand, or seeing who loves who more.

Please give me a break.


If you think you want to dwindle your youth away being a player until you are finally "forced" to commit to one person because your time is up, then I'm sorry hunnybuns, all the best fishes will be taken up and u will be left with not much selection. Then you can start envying your other guys friends who managed to snag their chicks from young and build up a REAL relationship.

Either that, you will find that girls aren't stupid. We actually learn. If we know a guy has had a string of relationship and all of them have ended with him being unfaithful, why the hoot will we want to trust you and start anything with you? Despite that glib of a gap you have, we have much more of a brain than the puny size of your dick.

Conclusion: The guy ends up old and lonely, or if he finally commits when he reaches a ripe old age, it'll be the story of Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall. If you aren't rich when you are old, you can forget about getting some boobs. Yea, you get my drift yea?


b) Jaded

I don't exactly blame a jaded guy for saying this. In fact I want to take him in my bosom, hold him and hug him, while telling him everything will be alright. PUI, PUI, PUI!

But really, these boys (yes I use the word boys, argh perhaps I'm too harsh) probably have been dumped before by some gorgeous girl, whom they thought was the one (and obviously never deserved at all) and left broken to bleed on the shards of glass on his bed of broken love..

Yeap, these guys are in denial, and they "fool" themselves into believing that playing around will prevent them from getting their oh so sorry hearts broken.

Please give me a break.

Conclusion: The guy ends up old and lonely, or if he finally commits when he reaches a ripe old age, it'll be the story of Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall. If you aren't rich when you are old, you can forget about getting some boobs. Yea, you get my drift yea?


c) Never loved before

This is the 3rd subgroup. But I don't really blame them because they have never known what real love is before. They possibly might have been together with a girl before, but never really experienced what being in a REAL relationship is like. Because of their lack of experience in this arena, they "cover" up this insecurity and excuse the fact, or convince themselves, for that matter that single is good, because they can play.

This group is an exception, because I really feel that once they have experience love with someone else, their mindset will change. They only feel this way temporarily and it is born out of pure inexperience.

Conclusion: You never know love until you actually fall in it. Yeap, you fall, you can't control it. You don't walk into love, you fall, and you can't help yourself.


2. Would never cheat on girlfriend


Now I come to the 2nd group of guys. The 2nd group who actually dares to say something like the quoted statement from my reader can only be described with one word.

BOH JEE

Yup, you heard me right. He ain't got no balls. The thing is that he already has a gf but is so freaking whipped and henpecked, that in front of her, he has no choice but to act submissive. Well, disclaimer here is that being submissive and being compromising and understanding are VERY different. One cannot be mistaken for the other please. (this will entail another blogpost... BAH)

This dude will have to pretend to be macho in front of his guy pals to "reclaim" his position in his friend's eyes. Perhaps they have long seen him as whipped and to bolster his own self esteem, he has to act out to convince those around him that he still has a shred of di(ck)nity left.

But seriously, he would never dare to cheat on his girlfriend.

Conclusion: BOHJEE guys' friends see through his act. They just ignore him because if they give him problem and his gf finds out, his gf will give this bohjee guy problem. Then his friends will have to find someway of bailing him out (again). Since they are friend enough, they "one ear in, one ear out"...


I don't know how accurate this theory is, but I thought it up on the fly on the way back from my exam hall yesterday. See, I waste all my brain cells to think this up instead of studying.... >_<


2 more papers to go!

Heartbroken... Torn Up... Tired of Tears

When ever I check my facebook, I get a whole list of updates...

Recently a friend, not close at all, broke up with her boyfriend. And it got me thinking about what happened to me years ago, with my first bf. I know I shouldn't always harp on it, I've blogged a trillion times about him, but somehow, when I think of heartbreak, his face appears on in my mind.

I remember thinking he was my first and ONLY love, how silly huh? But then my dreams got shattered when somehow he decided to make a unilateral decision to get out of my life. I was left lost... he left without a tear, and I was broken, because I had all my hopes pinned on him.

He wasn't perfect, but he was perfect for me -- or so I thought.

I never thought I'd get over him... the nights I thought I would just disappear into nothingness because of the void he left. The nights I was haunted by his face, the hours I spent next to my phone, waiting for the phone to ring, and when it did, it was never his voice...

I remember being haunted by the thoughts of how I was EVER going to find someone again...

And when I see that this friend of mine is going through all this pain... considering the relationship lasted for I'm guessing about 4 plus years, I can't help but feel tears well in my eyes. I've been there, haven't I?

I can seriously never understand how someone can just throw years of time spent together just like that, as if nothing ever happened, throw away and burn years of memories.... how could anyone be human if they did that???? Unless, they never really loved you to begin with???

I know, most of my posts are filled with pink pretty pictures or happiness, but this doesn't warren for one, my emotions run too deep.


Trying to get someone to get over another person truly is easier said than done. I remember it being almost impossible. And when I met the girl whom my ex left me for, I distinctly remember thinking to myself, that she was so different from me. I didn't hate her, I wasn't envious. In fact I was curious.... What made him leave? Was I not good enough... I remember this girl to be pretty and quite a charmer, party animal and all... and I never fitted that mould. Perhaps I was too boring and cookie cutter?

The thing about girls is that we go on and on, blaming ourselves sometimes for the disintegration of a relationship... was it me? what did I do wrong? Why wasn't I better? And you know what? You just have to tell yourself to SHUT THE FUCK UP.

Especially when the other person left because he just didn't know what he had then and there. Perhaps, he wanted wings to fly.... perhaps he just wanted more fun.


I don't know how to comfort a heartbroken person so much, but I can surely say that I've had my fair share of heartbreaks.


But now years later, when I look back, I can swear that I say this with no tinge of sour grape-ness, I'm glad it's over. We are now so different, we've chosen completely different paths, different goals and different visions. And I'm just so glad he walked away because through the pain I learnt what I really wanted (or didn't want) in a guy..

On hindsight, I'm really glad I walked the path I did because if not for that, I would never have been as happy as I am today and I wouldn't be able to meet someone new. Someone who knows how to love me the way I want to be loved. Most importantly, someone I can trust.

For all those heartbroken souls, things happen for a purpose, and years later when you look back, you're going to smile on your hurt.

Keep your head high!