Marrying for Love or Stabilty? Which comes first?
Marry for LOVE or STABILITY?
I love times when I'm in a car with someone else. It's times like these where you can share a real conversation with someone else -- many times these are heartfelt conversations that can tell a lot about a person. Many a times what they say comes as a surprise to you and you realise that there is this whole part of them that you don't know yet.
I've known Kenneth Kwok for like almost all my life. We were brought up in the same church, the same sunday school and our parents knew each other since forever. We were close as kids but somehow in time, grew apart as I moved away to a new church. However, as we grew older, we started to reconnect through friends and I'll see him infrequenty throughout the years due to the fact that he studies at NYU. I see him kinda every summer and the pockets of time when time allows for us to catchup - online and offline.
So today we had gone to his friend's house to play board games with his friends until pretty late but on the way home he was telling me that there are 2 kinds of girls. Those who marry for love and those who marry for security and stability. The latter might not really love the guys with everything but because he can provide for her with a stable life, she is willing to settle. Minority are the girls who stay with a guy purely for love although he obviously cannot provide for her and possibly a kid. He said girls were being more practical now a days and no money, no talk.Kenneth said he would not get married until he could be confident of supporting a wife and a kid.
This was freaky for me to hear because marriage is like soooo far from my mind and there we were in the car, talking about marriage and children like its a couple of years away...
He said long distance relationships never work because its like there are too many distractions and so many other priorities -- I've known friends who have managed to last though a long distance relationship.
Do you think they are actually feasible and if so if a woman wants financial security in a guy, does that necessarily make her materialistic?