I have learnt that you find out so much about someone by the company they keep. And that was my problem -- I had lacked the discernment. I was naive. I was a baby christian.
But as Dorcas put it, I can see clearly now the rain is gone, I can see all obstacles in my way.
There have been so many more things revealed about a person when speaking to people whom they claim to have close relationships with, but really those people don't know them at all. And I'm hearing all these tragic stories, terrible stories of the past, that I wouldnt have found out if not for the grace of God.
Let's just say, I dodged a bullet. But also in that same vein, I bless what he is doing in my life and the lives of people involved. God's plan always reigns supreme.